Time running out...

It is now December 14th and I am really starting to feel the holiday crunch with Christmas shopping and looking at the busy schedule Melanie and I have for the next several weeks/lifetime. We had our first weekend in a while that we could actually spend with each other and not worry about the busy events we had covered our calendar this weekend. We really needed it and it was really nice. We just stayed home most of the day on Saturday, watched movies, talked, and just spent time together which both of our schedules had put a strain on. It occurs to me that if I am not careful I may spend an entire day w/ my wife and not have spent a single second pursuing to grow together, maybe even spending the majority of the day seeking my own gain. This is so incredibly screwed up as I think of what I am commanded to do in Ephesians 5:25-33

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[c] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

I have to be incredibly intentional or I just become the average husband instead of my wife's dream come true and instead of giving up my rights and showing love as I should to her- I turn to my natural selfish self and become rude and snap at my wife over the smallest little infractions on what I incorrectly perceive as my rights.

I am encouraged as I know that this is not a problem which cannot be solved because I look at those who have gone before me who have set an amazing example and minimum standard.

This idea that my marriage is something I have to be incredibly intentional about when my wife is physically there in front of me reminds me how much more intentional we have to be about our pursuit of God.

As always I hope this is encouraging to you all,
Much love, Ira.

Well Melanie wanted me to update this so here it is!!

We recently were given permission in writing to get a cat and our new cat's name is Kate because Melanie would not let me name her cat.

So I have been trying off and on to get back to a running routine unsuccessfully, I am realizing how much more I thrive when I have a running partner who pushes me and is in better shape than me. I went running the other night and it was 38 Degrees- I was wearing a couple of layers, a beanie and a face gator(cover for nose, mouth, and throat), and I ran about a mile and I was having a stabbing pain in my chest due to cold air and not being acclimated to running in those temperatures. I posted a question about it on runnersworld.com and I was pretty much told to suck it up by a bunch of northern runners who boasted about running in that temp wearing shorts and t-shirts. really encouraging- let me tell you.
However encouraging the response that I got online about my run, I am reminded how dependent we are on others for encouragement to grow spiritually as the Body of Christ. Hold on...don't stop reading just because it gets a bit spiritual. Seriously though when I am surrounded by friends who are seeking to grow deeper and stronger in their relationship as well as those who have traveled further than I have I am pushed onward even when said growth is painful or not exactly in my comfort zone.

With that said I am really enjoying the way our Sunday schoool is growing closer together recently which is giving Melanie and I a semblance of community which we crave. It is amazing how much encouragement spiritually which can be gained just by hanging out w/ people who are in a similar place as us.

The only thing I could desire more from sunday school would be if we could perhaps be more effective at reaching other young couples both in the church and Jonesboro. Both unchurched and those who just don't yet have a place to belong to experience the community which we are slowly building between each other which is quite refreshing.

well I guess I have rambled on enough- hope you are encouraged,
Much love, Ira.